Why is marriage such a pressing issue?
- Marriage Can Wait Education Cannot.
The Mentality
The Reason
The reason for early marriage? The girl’s mind isn’t mature, and she’ll do as is told, learn to adjust, and settle as per the requirements of her far older and mature husband. And, of course, will easily bend to the whims of her in-laws, whatever those might be. Without understanding that what she is doing, unknowingly, is making her own life miserable, pleasing everybody, and not caring about her wishes, aspirations, and needs. Let’s hope she gets a somewhat understanding and caring husband, who cares about what she thinks. In the case of the contrary, let’s hope she finds it in herself to either make peace with her fate or finds the courage to speak her mind out.
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I absolutely agree with your thoughts, Ceci! 🙂
Yes, the need of the hour is for women to stay firm on their belief. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Ramya! 🙂
Rightly said, Sunita! Education is a priority. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
True words. Thank you for the appreciation, Maniparna! 🙂
Agreed! 🙂
+ Radhika Mundra.
A good education means so much these day's, (Level's of understanding this World), knowledge, developing the power's of reasoning and judgement (perception wise), most of all people skill's (learning to Love n respect/ relate with other's around us), as well as the most crucial of building self-confidence . It's a crying shame that that other cultures only see young girl's/ women as breeding stock. Have a good day and Thank you for sharing this very controversial topic. :))
Educate the girl. Marriage in my opinion should always wait because it's better to get into when you're matured and have a sound understanding of how the world is and where you fit in it, more so what exactly you're looking for in a partner.
We have moved on but we still in a highly male-dominated society. I agree with you here, few girls are forced to marry at an early age. Hosseni's quote is so true. I wish the world would change and moreover we as women be firm,strong and assertive and be the change. 🙂
There is no doubt that education is very important, whether you chose to get married and stay at home or continue a career after marriage. It broadens your outlook and gives you a maturity to handle life better, so in any case education is a priority.
Education enables a girl to understand everything more clearly and eventually leads to financial independence, which, I think, is very important in this country. Very well-written, dear… 🙂
Definitely education. Marriage is a gamble which could fail. But education will be used for lifetime and will never let you down.
Radhika, firstly, I am really glad and impressed to know your thoughts on such issues because the road to liberation starts with a thought. I agree with you more than 100% that a girl should be educated and well-earning in a career of her choice before she gets married. Marriage should be the last concern here.
Even in a city like Mumbai, which is considered the most modern, I regularly see girls being married off early or being looked down upon simply because she hasn't married even after completing 25. This tradition is actually atyachaar. It's a violation of basic human rights which is sugarcoated as tradition.
Please keep writing. We need more such voices.
Warm regards,
Keyur 🙂
Pleasure is mine 🙂 I had written about this around 2 years ago. Will give you the link.
Beautifully penned! And marriage can definitely wait as well as it is just an opinion. Education is the best companion any living being could possibly get, when you have that you can opt for an other companion if you wish to. And in all relationships, understanding and compromise is a must but the beauty of that would be felt only when it is mutual. Hope the change comes within every individual..
I think every girl should get a good education before getting married and having kids. Things change to quickly in this world things and people can be lost to you but a good education is always with you …I pray for the young girls in this world who are forced to marry to young sadly most of the time their lives are ruined by this.They lose so much by this thinking ….girls are just as important as the men are in this world they all need to understand this
Thanks for writing on this topic..!! It really is required to draw an attention towards the perception still being followed in 21st Century – a girl is still dominated by others (may it be parents, brothers or society).
Girls have always been dominated and their voices have been scrubbed. Not only #Marriage vs #Education but a girl should be given an equal respect to a boy. The root cause of girls being dominated is the "GENDER DISCRIMINATION". The day this discrimination is eliminated I guess we never have to raise any such issue.
Coming back to the topic, Yes! education is of utmost importance for every individual only then this discrimination will fade away. Every Girl being a HUMAN has the same rights to that of a BOY so she should be given the freedom to choose her future – now its upto her if she wants to get married and settled at an early age or if she wishes to pursue her career and then settle as an Independent Lady..!!
But this has a second aspect too – if a girl has been married at an early age and her dreams were not allowed to be chased, I expect for an ideal husband to let her wife chase her dreams only then the Marriage is fruitful 🙂
Ideally, I agree that the society should change their perception and allow the females to have an independent life by trusting them and not doubting them 🙂
Education – first – definitely
Great post!! Education as well as fending for oneself should be a priority. 🙂
It's such a thought provoking and powerful post. Many of us don't realize the power of education and financial freedom. The rush for marriage always put women at a disadvantage in society. It enhance the culture of exploitation.
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Good one Radhika..loved your post. Agree with you that there is a need of change in our society and mostly in the mindset of people. Nothing can change until and unless we girls take a firm decision..keep writing 🙂
Rightly said!Women themselves fall into societal pressure and ruin their lives most of the times
A most controversial topic ! Marriage is still regarded as the 'high point' in a woman's life. Sadly it is something that only the woman herself can change .The recent interview in which Sania Mirza took a stand is just the beginning that women are now warming up to change.
Would love to read! 🙂
Thanks so much, Divya! True, it has to be mutual for things to work out. 🙂
Thanks so much Christine for sharing your valued thoughts. I agree, this topic brings many thoughts to mind. It truly is a shame that even at this advanced age people do treat women as breeding stock.
I'm glad you took up education as and when you could. No shame, at least you're trying! Half of the people give up so easily. Power to you! 🙂
Have a great day yourself! 🙂
Glad to know, Vickie! 🙂
True, the world needs to understand this and hopefully, that day'll come soon! 🙂
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Sara, have a nice day! 🙂
Thanks, Vani! Agreed, it totally should be.
Thanks so much, Ranveer, for voicing the bitter truth. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Thank you so much for the feature, BA! I hope people realize the importance and instill a change in their own ways! 🙂
True, we all need to take a stand for ourselves! Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, Deepa! 🙂
True, Hemant, these notable personalities did justice to themselves by taking charge of their lives! Thanks for sharing your thoughts! 🙂
Thanks so much, Subha! 🙂
True, Sweta. Although marriage is undeniably, a high point in the lives of both individuals but education is too and that needs to be understood. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Sweta!
Good to know your thoughts, Ruchi! 🙂
Well said! 🙂 Thanks for sharing your thoughts! 🙂
Thank you so much for pointing out the bigger issue, Navneet. The tides are turning and we might see a new era where equality between the genders ensues.
About the ideal husband, for that too happen, the male child should be taught about equality of genders right from the beginning.
Thanks for sharing your valuable thoughts! 🙂
Agreed with this marriage can wait …. I too believe in this and want my kids to complete studies before getting into responsible life…be responsible to take responsiblity 🙂
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"My opinion doesn't matter. Ask the "girl child" hers and listen to what her heart is telling you. If having a happy daughter is important then let her have a say in her future."